Holla! Please let me know what you think of my #HuffingtonPost Piece

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Hey guys! I’m interested in learning what you think of my HuffPo article. Please check it out and like and/or comment and/or share. I’d truly appreciate your feedback. Thanks!

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/letting-go-of-pains-from-the-past-by-learning-the-lessons_us_57c5a181e4b024fca58cfb40

Love ya!

Carol (a/k/a C.S. Blake)

Breaking up with Tech

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Final Day of our 30 day Challenge!

Day 30 of Happily Ever After and since I’m a bit late in the evening rather than this morning, you can postpone doing this until one day that you are off work, like next weekend, since many of us have to have tech when we work.

Day 30 – Give tech a rest.

If you wrote down the time you spent on social media or reading emails or reading stuff online, I bet it would add up to hours over a day’s time, if not your entire work day, and then some. Get away from tech for one day! It won’t kill you. If you have to stay in contact with your family, use it for emergencies only or to know when to pick someone up but other than that, give tech a rest. And as far as that goes, TV too. Play board games, talk to your people, play with your pets, read a book.

I know tech keeps us connected and for many reasons, it’s a good thing, but we have become too dependent on gadgets and gizmos and living our lives completely around technology. Sometimes, we need to get back to nature, shut off electricity, live by candlelight, live by daylight, embrace the freedom from being tied up with tech for what seems like 24/7.

Break up with Tech, just for 24 hours. You might actually like it and it could become a new staple in your household, like one day a month, no tech, only connecting with each other and nature and the natural sounds around you.

Hope you guys found some happiness within some of these challenges. Let me know?

Until next time…

😉

#happilyeverafter

Take a Day Trip

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Day 29 of our 30 day challenge.

Today or tomorrow, plan (or don’t) a day trip. Gather your favorite peeps, get in the car and go somewhere fun, spend a few hours doing fun things and then come back home before bed time. If you are a spur-of-the-moment kind of person, or not, shake things up and do something different.

However, I should say to pick a place within 3 hours drive and google the place to see if there’s at least one interesting thing to see or do or place to eat. I did a spur-of-the-moment day trip and it was not at all what I read it was. The restaurant was probably the most horrible place we ever ate, the worst food, the worst service and had it not been for the fact that we enjoy each other’s company sooo much, that trip would have been an epic fail. Plus, we were in the middle of nowhere land and I don’t mean now-here, I mean no-where. We weren’t in the sticks. We were in the toothpicks. There were fields and grown up grass and trees and that was it. I think this was the one restaurant in the entire one-horse town.

With that being said, just be sure to do at least 10 minutes of research once you pick the place you are headed and find something there you and your peeps will enjoy. And take off!

Share with us where you went, how far it was and what kind of time y’all had!

Hope y’all are having a groovilicious weekend, so far!

*smooch*

#happilyeverafter

Do Lunch with a Friend

Welcome to Day 28 of our Happily Ever After 30 day challenge.

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For today, make plans to do lunch with a friend. Or breakfast, or, supper, or dinner and drinks, or even with a family member if you consider them a friend. It’s important to cultivate happy, healthy relationships. We must establish strong friendships to be happy.

Some of us may consider ourselves an island, because maybe it keeps us feeling safe. No one can hurt us if we are on our own and have no connections but is that really a happy way to live? I don’t think so. I’ve gone through years of not having close connections with anyone, and for a while, it was nice to protect myself from being hurt by people but I see I’m much happier when surrounded by people that love me and that I love in return, those who are silly and make me laugh, those who are deep and I can confide in and somehow, they understand. It makes life a lot easier when you have such people in your daily life.

So have a meal with friend, either out or have them over.

How’s this challenge working for you, thus far? How many of the challenges have you taken on? Do you feel happier as a result? I’m eager to hear how it’s going for you. Please drop me a line and let me know.

Have a fantastical kind of Friday, y’all!

Love ya!  xoxo

#happilyeverafter

Get Out of Control

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“I will take the leap of faith and peace;
I will let go and let God.”
~ Dana Fonseca

Day 27 – Get out of control

I mean, let go of control. It is what it is and if you cannot change it, hand it over to God and let it go. It’s not going to manifest in your life by your continuing to want it, longing for it. You can continue to pray for it but then, try your best to put it out of your mind as best you can and focus on other things you do have control over.

This also goes for anything in your life you hate. If you hate your job and your boss is a jerk and unappreciative, it’s time to let it go, but here, you take control. And only after you find something else first, of course. If your spouse is beating the crap out of you, time to let him go and get out of there fast, preferably when he’s not at home. The things you actually do have control over, it’s time to get in the driver’s seat of your life, take action and own your life. If you have no control over certain things, let Jesus take the wheel. He’s a much better driver anyway.

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Happy Friday Eve! Y’all go out there and make today as amazing as you are! And you’re pretty darned amazing!! xoxo

#happilyeverafter

Days 22 – 26 of 30 Day Happiness Challenge

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Day 22 – Volunteer day

This can be at a soup kitchen, helping a neighbor, helping an old lady at the grocery store. As long as you are assisting someone else for free, this is volunteering.

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Day 23 – Practice silence and the art of listening

It’s hard for me to be still but I am learning. It makes such a huge difference in the busyness of life when you can learn to be still, be quiet and listen, not only to what thoughts come flooding through your mind but the art of actually listening to others. It’s so beneficial to stop focusing on yourself long enough to listen to what others are trying to tell you. And when it comes to those thoughts floating through your mind, be careful what you listen to. We all have negative vibes that bounce through, so try to not pay too much attention to those voices. Just observe them and let them pass by. Listen more closely to the positive, uplifting voices. You know the difference. These are your God whispers and perhaps messages from your higher self.

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Day 24 – Read something happy

Look for an article or book on anything uplifting, something that will help to lighten your mood, preferably something filled with humor. Read it.

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Day 25 – Practice positivity all day long

Believe in people. Give them the benefit of the doubt. Not all people are bad. Go back to the old saying, “Screw me over once, shame on you. Screw me over twice, shame on me.” Give people a chance to show you they can be trusted. Also try believing in yourself, that you are talented, you are intelligent, you deserve good things, and practice having faith in yourself. Take your concerns and prayers to God/Jesus and then let it go. Try to not constantly focus on what it is you want. Only ask and expect it, while also taking inspired action toward it. Believe good things are happening and they are on their way to you and your loved ones. Believe it with all your might. When you send out the positive vibes, they will return to you with better results than what you might expect. But be careful with what you ask, because you just might get it. It’s always best to ask for what you want but end that statement with “…this or something better for the highest benefit of all concerned.” God listens to the small details of your requests, so be sure to include them. And just remember, you get what you put out there. So if it’s negativity, non-belief, doubt, stress, that will return to you. If you are positive, believe, have faith, know it’s happening, cast your worries aside, and let it go, then good things will return to you.

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Day 26 – Be gentle with yourself day

We are hardest on ourselves than anyone else. Apologize to yourself, forgive yourself, love yourself, thank yourself, be gentle with yourself. Only think today of your positive qualities and if a negative thought comes in your mind, observe it leaving your brain. Only positivity lives here today.

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Y’all have a wonderific day and know that you are loved!  xoxo

-Carol

#happilyeverafter

Days 17 – 21 of the Happily Ever After Challenge

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Day 17 – Tune out negative day

Take one day to not complain, vent, gossip or engage in anything negative spoken or thought about anyone, including yourself. Do not speak it, do not listen to it, and do not think it. Can ya do it?

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Day 18 – Gratitude Journal

You can do this on your computer, your phone, an actual handwritten journal/book, take 10-15 minutes to list everything you are thankful and grateful for – all the wonderful blessings you have in your life. Like the people closest to you, your health, the fact that you woke up breathing. You can take longer than 15 minutes if you feel the need. You can also do this every day to practice gratitude.

I mentioned this also on day 1.

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Day 19 – Sleep tight

How tired were you yesterday? How tired are you this morning? How many hours of sleep did you get? If you are getting 6 hours and you’re tired, try 7 or 8. If you are getting 9 or 10 and you’re still tired, try 7 or 8. Try to get in the habit of going to bed at the same time every night and getting up at the same time every morning. If you are drinking too much coffee and find it hard to sleep, cut down on the caffeine. If you are drinking alcohol, this can make you feel restless, and make sure you’re getting enough water. Turn off all devices – put cell phones on do not disturb, do not look at it, get away from the computer, turn off the TV. You need stillness, quiet, darkness and rest.

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Day 20 – Conversation with God and with yourself

It helps to talk it out, whether you are pissed off or just to talk things over, to mull it over in your mind and then with spoken word, sometimes it helps to get it outside of ourselves. Write it down if you want. Say it out loud. Do both. Whatever feels right to you. But get it out there. Your concerns, your prayers, your thoughts, what you want, what you’re thankful for, what you need to do, how you need to make changes, and then make a step by step plan to get it done.

And if you are feeling stuck, have a habit of self-sabotage, or cannot find motivation, because maybe you think you don’t deserve good things, tell yourself this every day:

I’m sorry. I forgive you. Thank you. I love you. You do deserve good things.

And then take inspired action toward what you want – every day.

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Day 21- Girls/Guys Night or Family Night

Plan a dinner and drinks out, or get take out, rent a movie and stay in with your family/friends – have fun, catch up with each other. It’s not all about eating, drinking and watching TV. It’s about engaging with loved ones, talking and laughing.

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Hope your day is Sanfrantastic!!!  Love ya! *smooch*

#happilyeverafter