Day 1 – Happily Ever After – Pay it Forward, or…

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Greetings and salutations, sunshiny people! Or potential sunshiny people? I realize maybe some of us, or all of us, are less than social lately and less than optimistic and probably not as happy as we’d like to be. We don’t have to discuss why. We all know why. We all have our own individual reasons and, certainly, collective ones! Our circumstances and status of the world should not be allowed to zap all of our happiness. Easier said than done, I get it. If you’re anything like me, you focus more on the negative surrounding you rather than all the completely fantastical things and people you have in your life to be grateful for. Why the heck do we do this?! It’s crazy, right?!

I mean, I have this and this and that and that and all this to be thankful for – it adds up to like 20 things just off the top of my head I can think of in two seconds of thought. Yet, one negative thing happens and BLAM! I’m crying in my coffee, asking, “Why?” And then it’s all I can focus on for days…and days…and weeks… And I go into a state of what I like to call mentalpause where I cannot focus on anything good, or anything happy – I’m just completely blocked off from everything. Do you get this way? It’s pathetic, right?!

It’s time to stop it. I’m talking to me, too. I know one thing for a fact about happiness – it is a conscious choice we make every minute of our lives and it should not be swayed by incoming change and catastrophe. We have a choice – if we don’t like it and we have the power to change it, then we take action to change it. If we can’t change it, then it is what it is and we have to accept it (or try to learn how – while not having a major motha of a meltdown), and (dare I say) be thankful for it. Thankful because the change and growth that occurs inside our souls is transforming us into higher beings, but only if we let it. Our souls are strengthening, learning and growing to higher states of being from all the good, the bad and the ugly.

(And if you’re happy constantly? Well, good for you.)

I’m going to keep each day’s post somewhat short and sweet. This, day 1, will probably be the longest one. And without further ado – let us cultivate and share happiness, shall we?

Day 1 is about Paying It Forward, but there’s a twist – you can choose that or you can choose to Engage in Conversation with a Stranger.


I’ll choose Social Engagement for $100, Alex.

I’m not talking about on social media, not blogging – it’s not about technical devices today. That’s why I’m starting it on a Saturday – a day when people are usually out and about, getting their grocery shopping done, running errands, spending time with family and/or friends, and perhaps going out for a meal somewhere.

So the assignment for all of us today (and yes, that includes me) is to engage with at least one person – a stranger – for either a conversation, even if it’s just to say “How’s your day going?” or compliment them on their outfit, how they have a great smile, nice shoes… but then, you have a great imagination and I know you can come up with something on your own – Or to pay it forward by buying the person behind you a $5 coffee or $10 lunch, buy someone’s groceries, however much you want to spend – it’s totally up to you. I’ve been on the giving and receiving end of this one and it’s the most incredible feeling!!!

Either of these actions will fill your heart up with gladness!!  I cannot express how much happiness it brings to engage with others that you don’t even know, open up a little, smile, talk to them, pay it forward, whatever feels like the thing to do.

Extra points if you do both today.

And if you’re too po to pay it forward, you will probably continue to be po, because if it’s one thing I’ve learned over the span of 40+ years, it’s that when you give, you get back, usually x 10, so you do the math. And it’s not about the amount of money you spend. It’s about sharing what’s been given to you with others. It’s called spreadin’ the loooove. Send out the love = get love in return. Don’t share (with joy) what you have = you’ll get more of nut’n.

Let me know what you did. It’s not about bragging. It’s about loving. It’s about sharing your soul with people and spreading happiness. It’s about honoring yourself as well as those around you.

And one additional thing that may help you on your happiness journey – a gladness journal. Try to spend just 10 or 15 minutes at the end of each day writing out those things and occurrences and people that you are so very grateful and happy and thankful for. It will help place your mind in a state of joy and peace, while also focusing on the positive, which we are trying to do here – focusing more on what’s good. Doing this will not only aid to your happiness but will better your overall health – emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually.

If you want to cultivate even more happiness around the globe just from where you are, share this post with your friends, so they can give and receive happiness, as well. I’ll be posting each of the 30 days at midnight (Central).

Love ya! C-ya tomorra!  xoxo





Author: Carol B Sessums

I'm a person just like you who wants to find ways to better my life - not to just better myself, but to become extraordinary and to love my life.

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