Are We The Deciders of Our Fate?


I know today is the day for the Hump Day Haiku and I’ll get to that but first I wanted to chat with you about something important.  It’s basically a question for you.

My daughter has been going through something recently with some people she believed to be her friends.  Only they are too immature to be friends to anyone.  But then, that’s high school, right?  Thankfully, she does have a few very valuable friends she can count on to lift her up, make her laugh on her bad days, and love her.  Thank You, God!

She was actually thinking of not going to a function because a few of these ex-friends would be there.  I told her she should go, because you should never give your power to someone else.  Not doing something that you love because other rude people will be there is the same thing as giving up your power.  She should not let them get in her way.  She should get in their way.  If they don’t like it, they can leave.  If she didn’t go, it’s giving them the upper hand and they believe they’ve won.  Don’t run and hide.  Take a stand.  Be you.  Do what your heart leads you to do no matter what others do or say.  They are in the wrong.  If you bow down, then you are in the wrong.  Ultimately, it was her decision.  It’s only my job to guide and advise.

So our morning conversation went something like this:

“I decided I’m going,” she said with confidence.

“That’s awesome!  I’m so proud of you!  You’re such a strong person and I love that about you.”

“You helped me.”

“But you are the decider of your fate.”

“You think we decide our fate or is it already decided for us?”

“I believe that God has a plan and he already knows what’s going to happen but we are given free will.  We decide what we will do with what we’ve been given.  We all have dreams and gifts and talents.  God’s plan would most likely be for us to use them and create our lives.  Some do and some do nothing with what they’ve been given.  We have a choice.  God helps us when we ask him but we have to do our part and take action.  I don’t believe it’s God’s plan that we do nothing with what we’ve been given.  He’d want us to go after what our heart calls us to do.  We decide.”

What do you think?  Do you believe it’s all been planned out for us?  Do you believe whatever happens – happens?  Do you believe there’s even a plan for each of us?  Or do you believe that we are all given something uniquely ours, that we each have a purpose and it’s up to us to put our lives in motion by using up what we’ve been gifted, taking action and creating our own lives?

Are we the deciders of our fate?


Author: Carol B Sessums

Writer, Editor, Coffee Addict, Lover of Mountains. Lives to shrink the planet, one story and connection at a time.

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