You’re a Stah!

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What a cool thing to say to the one you love, be it significant other, child, parent, best friend.

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Sorry I haven’t been on here much lately.  A post here.  A post there.  I’m slackin’!  I need to get crack-a-lackin’!  I have had soooo many contracts come in (thank You, Lord!), so I’m working around 46+ hours this week.  For those of you that don’t know, I work from home.  I’m a single/divorced parent of a busy, hungry teen, so I have to work, work, work.  But I love my work, my clients and wouldn’t be doing anything else, except perhaps writing books full-time if I had the opportunity.  Ah, wouldn’t it be nice to be independently wealthy so you could follow your heart’s desire.  I would write books, stories, songs, poetry.  I would garden.  I would landscape.  I would volunteer my time and money.  I would clean more.  Yeah, don’t look at my house.  I’ve been slackin’ on that, too.

I’ve also been trying to squeeze in time for Camp Nanowrimo.  I’m a bit behind but I try to write some every day.  Didn’t get a chance to yesterday.  I hope I get a chance to make time for writing today.  How are you doing?  Drop me a line and let me know what’s going on in your life.  Let me know if you have any prayer needs, because although my faith may be weak at times, I know the Big Dude Upstairs listens and answers prayers.  If you don’t believe, ah, tell me your needs anyway, because I believe in Him and He believes in all of us.

Have a wonderful and wacky (in a good way) Wednesday and may none of us run into any wack-a-doos (weirdos), unless you count me, of course.  ;)

You make me smile!  You’re a stah!

Love ya!  *smooch*

-C

Searching For Her Beloved

She walked tirelessly

Until her feet bled

And then, she walked on

Ignoring the pain

She held on to the faith

She’d find her beloved

That belief is what sustained her

Through her hunger

Through her restlessness

Through the welcomed setting sun

As she knew with nightfall

She’d finally find rest

If only for a moment

Until the sun rose the next

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This is actually a line I just wrote today from my novel.  Listening to Earth Shadow by Deuter, I felt it sounded more like poetry than perhaps a line so felt the need to share.  If you are a writer reading this, always be on the lookout for inspirational music to play in the background, something new to you, something different.  You never know with what you may find your inspiration, no matter how blocked you think you may be at a given time.  Usually, I prefer to write in silence.  Sometimes, you have to change things up a bit.  Happy writing and/or creating and may inspiration and creativity flow to you, through you and onto whatever you choose as your canvas.

As a Writer, Are You a Fool?

roald“A person is a fool to become a writer. His only compensation is absolute freedom. He has no master except his own soul, and that, I am sure, is why he does it.”

–  Roald Dahl

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It can be a rather lonely profession at times.  I don’t know about you, but most of the time, I like my alone time, especially if it means I get to have time to write creatively.  Oh, sure, at times, even for work it’s quite enjoyable granted the contract is writing something you’re interested in.  Sometimes, you’re writing technical mumbo-jumbo you couldn’t care less about but it helps pay the bills, huh?  So it’s not all bad.  When you’re actually writing something you love and you’re getting paid for it, aw yeah, that’s the good stuff.  And when you can score a free couple of hours to write creatively for yourself?  Man, that’s gold.  And working from home doing all of that stuff, and fitting it in around family time.  That’s priceless.

Do I sound like a credit card commercial?

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Sorry I’ve been out for a bit.  Too much going on – trying to figure out how to do lesson plans for a class, trying to fit in Camp Nano, working on contracts, looking for more contracts, writing for work, writing for fun, family time, cooking, cleaning, walking the dogs, the list is endless.  I’ve not forgotten about my blog and all you cool peeps.  Just running out of time to do everything.  All work and no play makes Carol a dull girl.  Chocolate and wine helps!  ;)

So how are all of you?  What’s going on in your world?  Tell me everything.  Gimme the skinny.

Who all is participating in Camp Nanowrimo?

Skies Perfused

The sky, perfused with haze

Of pink and bluegrays

Looks and feels like death

 

Especially the tips of the trees

Outlined by this gassed disease

Mist fills the air

 

Up at 3:30am walking a pup, this is how the sky appeared to me…

A Stake to the Heart

david“If you show someone something you’ve written, you give them a sharpened stake, lie down in your coffin, and say, ‘When you’re ready’.”

— David Mitchell, Black Swan Green
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So, what about Beta Readers?  When you write something, how many do you employ to get their opinion?  Do you have close relatives read it?  Perhaps close personal friends?  Strangers?  Members of your writing group?  Or do you read it, reread it, read it yet again, proof and polish and then simply send out your queries?  In your opinion, how many Betas should you have read your precious baby?  And who should they be?

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On another note, how many out there are participating in Camp Nanowrimo, starting April 1st?

Happy Spring, dingaling!  ;)  Oh, and happy Solar Eclipse and SuperMoon!  :D

 

10 Signs You Might Be An Okay Parent

There are as many parenting styles out there as there are parents.  The mom is going to parent differently than the dad.  With so many single/divorced parents, the differing styles become insanely opposite, especially if the parents never saw eye-to-eye when they were married/together.  How do you know you’re doing it right?  Is there any right way to parent?  Do you constantly question your parenting genius or lack thereof?  Here are just a few telltale signs that you might be doing an okay job on the parenting front:

1.  Your teen could easily move in with the alternate parent and have no rules, be able to stay out as late as they like, get away with smoking and drinking and sex and drugs, yet the kid chooses to live with you, the more responsible loving parent with rules, because they know the rules mean you care.

2.  You fight daily with your kid, which could be anything from a slight disagreement or rolling of the eyes to a full-on shouting match and slamming of doors (not just from the kid), yet by the end of the night, you still get a kiss goodnight, an ‘I love you,’ and possibly an ‘I’m sorry.’

3.  You are 99.9% sure your child is not on drugs.  You can’t be 100% sure unless your child had a surprise urine test today.  Thankfully, many schools have surprise urine tests, just to offer peace of mind.

4.  You talk to your kid about everything, from the effects of smoking and drugs to sex, disease and unwanted early pregnancy, and everything in between.  You’re pretty sure they listen, because as far as you know, they aren’t smoking, aren’t doing drugs and aren’t having sex/unprotected sex.

5.  You stress how important good grades are to getting college scholarships and though you may hardly ever see them study or if they are, they’re jamming out to music, watching tv and texting on their smartphone all the while, they still find a way to ace that test and have an A, overall, in the class.

6.  You perform a surprise inspection of their texts to and from their friends and get the all clear.  At times, this can be quite alarming as sexting has become a huge thing with today’s teen (and I encourage you to keep tabs on your teen’s phone), even if you feel 100% sure your kid would never ever do that.  Let me tell you, you can never be 100% sure.  I don’t care how well you think you know your kid.

When your child has sexted, you calmly sit your child down (after your panic attack has ended, you can breathe again and you’re 90% sure you aren’t going to have a heart attack or swallow your tongue) and talk to them face-to-face (I said calmly and preferably without crying — a shaky voice is fine and actually expected) and express the many reasons it’s not a good idea, that you are not judging them, you still think they are awesome in every way, everyone makes mistakes and you still love them fiercely!!  Oh, and don’t forget to ground them for a month or as long as you see fit (this means taking away their cell phone).  I’ve known parents to take away their phone entirely.  While I understand why, I believe the kid deserves another chance to prove they can make better decisions, eventually, after a good 30 days without it.  Make sure you always have their current phone password.

7.  You perform a surprise inspection of their internet browsing history and get the all clear.  Naturally, kids are going to be curious.  Actually, the age range at which children start viewing porn is as early as 11-13, sometimes younger.  Many children look for new friendships in chat rooms, where sex offenders lurk, and their new friend is pretending to be a sweet 15 year old boy or girl when actually he’s a 45 year old perv, saying ‘let’s meet for a smoothie’ and he grabs your kid.  Make sure to keep computer passwords so you can view their history anytime.

8.  You ask your teen to do some chores and you’re 95% sure they aren’t listening but when you learn they did clean up their room, wash the dishes (though it may not be the greatest job ever in the history of dish-washing), feed the dog and take out the garbage, they were actually listening to every word.

9.  You talk with and laugh with your child on a daily basis — I’m talking fall-down bust-a-gut belly-laughter.  About anything.

10.  Your child talks to you about something that could potentially get them in trouble, yet they bring it to you anyway, because they trust you, because they know you will listen, because they know you care, because they know you will not judge them harshly, because they know you love them, and they love you.

Okay, and 1 more for good measure:

11.  Your kid is still living at home with you, hasn’t moved out to that alternate parent, a grandparent, aunt or uncle, or run away, because you are a completely wretched parent, unfair in every way.

I could go on but I’d say those top 10 are pretty fair in establishing that you might just be okay as a parent if you can meet all or most of those.